<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?>
<rss version="2.0"
	xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/"
	xmlns:wfw="http://wellformedweb.org/CommentAPI/"
	xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/"
	xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"
	xmlns:sy="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/syndication/"
	xmlns:slash="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/slash/"
	>

<channel>
	<title>JoAnn Chats</title>
	<atom:link href="http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?feed=rss2" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml" />
	<link>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann</link>
	<description>Just another WordPress weblog</description>
	<lastBuildDate>Mon, 15 Oct 2012 12:44:49 +0000</lastBuildDate>
	<generator>http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1</generator>
	<language>en</language>
	<sy:updatePeriod>hourly</sy:updatePeriod>
	<sy:updateFrequency>1</sy:updateFrequency>
			<item>
		<title>Statement on PEP&#8217;s Facebook and Twitter accounts</title>
		<link>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?p=56</link>
		<comments>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?p=56#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Oct 2012 11:13:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>JACM0d</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Opinion]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Facebook]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[PEP]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[PEPalerts]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[scoopbox]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[twitter]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?p=56</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[This is Jo-Ann Maglipon, editor-in-chief of PEP.ph.
Today, October 8, 2012, PEP&#8217;s accounts on Facebook (PEP.Philippines) and Twitter (@scoopbox) were hacked.
Netizens calling themselves protectors of cyberspace, and supposedly enraged by the Cybercrime Law, are holding PEP hostage until, they say, their condition is met. This condition is that &#8220;important informations [sic] posted here must be retweeted/shared [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is Jo-Ann Maglipon, editor-in-chief of PEP.ph.</p>
<p>Today, October 8, 2012, PEP&#8217;s accounts on Facebook (PEP.Philippines) and Twitter (@scoopbox) were hacked.</p>
<p>Netizens calling themselves protectors of cyberspace, and supposedly enraged by the Cybercrime Law, are holding PEP hostage until, they say, their condition is met. This condition is that &#8220;important informations [sic] posted here must be retweeted/shared or in anyway [sic] possible that it can reach more people.&#8221; They add: &#8220;This account will be given back (if the owner wants it back) if a [sic] condition is met.&#8221;</p>
<p>All right. Some people just don&#8217;t know how to fight a war. You want to fight the bullies that created RA 10175, yet you bully an online portal? You want to rally society behind you, yet you violate the very tools in cyberspace that deliver the message? You want respect as legitimate dissenters, yet you disrespect us who work ploddingly to make our dissent known?</p>
<p>I&#8217;m really doubting if these hackers are in fact against the crazed Cybercrime Law. Sounds to me like they&#8217;re dark agents of those pushing this law in its original or revised-each of which is crazed!-version.</p>
<p>PEP has a series of stories already lined up exposing that law and its fallacies. YES!, PEP&#8217;s print affiliate, of which I am also editor-in-chief , is racing against deadline to include a biting commentary against that law, including sidebars of its completed interviews with lawyers, judges, journalists, militant individuals, and international human rights groups that have, wisely, spoken up against the deep dangers of the Cybercrime Law. Both PEP and YES! will be posting graphics-PEP on its homepage; YES! on the cover of its November issue-loudly announcing &#8220;NO TO CYBERCRIME LAW!&#8221;</p>
<p>I have taken a stand on this. The Web and print staff have taken a stand on this. We will fight this law. We did not fight Marcos to wrest back our small liberties, only to have them swept away by ill-informed and myopic legislators, backed by a President who pains the country as he has never had before. The President forgets those years when his own father was bullied, unsuccessfully, into giving up his right to expression and speech by the man in Malaca&#241;ang.</p>
<p>That said, I wish to have nothing in common with these hackers. Nothing. They&#8217;re no different from those legislators; they simply used another pulpit..</p>
<p>NOTICE: PEP is officially dissociating itself from @scoopbox on Twitter and PEP.Philippines on Facebook. Here are the new accounts of PEP.ph: <a href="https://twitter.com/pepalerts" target="_blank">@PEPalerts</a> on Twitter (or copy paste this on your browser <a href="https://twitter.com/pepalerts" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/pepalerts</a>) and PEPalerts (or copy paste this on your browser: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/PEPalerts" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/PEPalerts</a>) on Facebook.</p>
<p>I know that, in PEP, we built a social-network community of nearly 400,000 followers on Twitter and almost 100,000 likes on Facebook. We did this in less than one year. Let&#8217;s do it again, and let&#8217;s do it now.</p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?feed=rss2&amp;p=56</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Richard Gutierrez shakes hands with PEP</title>
		<link>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?p=23</link>
		<comments>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?p=23#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Feb 2010 09:21:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>admin</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Feature]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Annabelle Rama]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Atty. Angelica Yñares-Santiago]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Atty. Annette  Abrogar]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Bong Godinez]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[DOJ Secretary Agnes Devanadera]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Eddie gutierrez]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Felicitas Aquino-Arroyo]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Karen Pagsolingan]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[PEP]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Richard Gutierrez]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?p=23</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[After almost a year, PEP and the Gutierrezes have made peace.
This was the result of the behind-the-scenes work of Atty. Annette Gozon-Abrogar and Ms. Lisa Gokongwei-Cheng,  two officers of the Philippine Entertainment Portal, who are responsible for brokering this peace.
For those not in the know, Richard Gutierrez  filed a libel suit against the Philippine Entertainment [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>After almost a year, PEP and the Gutierrezes have made peace.</p>
<p>This was the result of the behind-the-scenes work of Atty. Annette Gozon-Abrogar and Ms. Lisa Gokongwei-Cheng,  two officers of the Philippine Entertainment Portal, who are responsible for brokering this peace.</p>
<p>For those not in the know, Richard Gutierrez  filed a libel suit against the Philippine Entertainment Portal on April 13, 2009, claiming that an April 13, 2009 article in the site had caused him harm, hurt, and humiliation. He decried that the article, which reported &#8220;a heated altercation&#8221; and &#8220;fracas&#8221; between him and another actor at a showbiz party, was inaccurate.</p>
<p>I withdrew that article within minutes of learning that serious questions were being raised against it and, worse, that the article did not have either the side of Richard and the other actor mentioned in the alleged incident.</p>
<p>Within 24 hours of that withdrawal, PEP uploaded an apology to Richard and the other persons mentioned in the article, and within 48 hours of that same withdrawal, I had called for a tri-media press conference to apologize before the nation in behalf of my staff.</p>
<p>After another four weeks, when we had completed a more thorough investigation and discovered that, indeed, no altercation or fracas had occurred, and that the events witnessed by our reporter  had been misread,  PEP again released an apology. This time, it took the form of a four-part series detailing both the investigation and the correction.</p>
<p>Nonetheless, Richard remained dissatisfied, and proceeded to file a libel suit. As respondents, he named me, as editor in chief of PEP, Karen Pagsolingan as managing editor, and Ferdinand &#8220;Bong&#8221; Godinez as writer.</p>
<p>Today, February 9, or a long eleven months after, we gathered in the office of  Secretary Agnes Devanadera of the Department of Justice and buried the hatchet. Present were Richard  and his parents Eddie and Annabelle, Richard&#8217;s lawyer Angelica Ynares-Santiago, Atty. Annette Abrogar, Karen, Bong, our lawyer Felicitas Aquino-Arroyo, and Secretary Devanadera.</p>
<p>The arrangement was that I was to read the official PEP apology in front of the persons present, plus the media who had been invited to cover the amicable settlement. This, I did. The statement consisted of two paragraphs that PEP carries in its breaking news of February 9 <a href="http://www.pep.ph/news/24659/Richard-Gutierrez-and-PEP-finally-find-peace">(CLICK HERE</a>). At the end of this reading, Richard and I were to shake hands. This we did. Secretary Devanadera extended her hand and said that all three of us had to clasp hands. This, we did.</p>
<p>Previous to the reading of the official apology, however, I read aloud a personal note that I had written for  the Gutierrez family. I had been asked to do this by my lawyer, Atty. Fely-who had taken over from her law partner Atty. Sandy Coronel, who had recently given birth—because Richard&#8217;s camp wanted more assurance that the PEP apology would be sincere.</p>
<p>I suppose all that legalese shears official statements of any emotional content, which makes them difficult for parties to read. I agreed. On the way to the DOJ, I scribbled my thoughts.</p>
<p>Here are those thoughts:</p>
<p><em>When we began PEP almost four years ago, we had the Gutierrez family as allies and friends. We found pleasure in that relationship. We would never have done anything willfully to destroy this relationship.</em></p>
<p><em>Certainly, the circumstances under which we meet today are not the most desirable or comfortable. I also wish we had not disturbed the courts for something that we, given our small friendship and uninterrupted goodwill in the past, could have managed on our own.</em></p>
<p><em>Be that as it may, we are here for something that may actually count in our future. I hope that this all leads to relations that will grow better and kinder as the days unfold.</em></p>
<p><em>It is integral to our profession to report both the pleasant and unpleasant. In performing this duty, however, we  can not allow ourselves to transgress the rules of journalism, and on the rare circumstance that we do, we return back to those same rules, which tell us that we must correct our mistake. In this instance, we correct ourselves—and, beyond that, apologize most sincerely.</em></p>
<p><em>I take pride in the fact that we, the Philippine Entertainment Portal, are a media platform that will do the right thing. I hope this fact is appreciated. </em></p>
<p><em>Bong Godinez is a young but fine reporter whose misstep with this story has only made him more diligent and intelligent.</em></p>
<p><em>Karen Pagsolingan is an earnest editor without bad habits or bias, who has only grown wiser with this experience.</em></p>
<p><em>For my part, I, as editor in chief, know that there is no darkness in my spirit toward the Gutierrez family—then or now.<br />
Annabelle Rama has been a happy and charming ally, if a volatile one, for key stories that we have researched, and for this, we are grateful.</em></p>
<p><em>Eddie Gutierrez has, in my experience, treated us only with civility in the most trying of circumstance, and again, for this we are grateful.</em></p>
<p><em>The rest of the Gutierrez family have generally kept their peace even when their instincts must have prodded them to do otherwise, and again, for this we are grateful.</em></p>
<p><em>But in the end, Richard Gutierrez, accepting our apology, has shown a magnanimity that we may have earned but can only leave to his good nature to give. For this, we are most grateful.</em></p>
<p><em>Trust that PEP will remain a site that provides fair and accurate coverage, even when circumstances are not the most desirable. And we trust as well that the Gutierrez family will maintain their good will with us, as they have with the entertainment industry all their lives.</em></p>
<p><em>Thank you.</em></p>
<p><strong>POSTSCRIPT.</strong> Elsewhere in the site are answers to the questions we have been asked multiple times today: Has PEP&#8217;s credibility suffered because of this settlement? Why is the apology being offered only now? What happens to the coverage of PEP of Richard Gutierrez after this? Is Annabelle Rama going to the YES! 10TH Anniversary party on February 23? The answer to the last is YES. As for the rest, we will have stories posted in Breaking News today and in the days to come that answer these questions. Karen, Bong and I have also given interviews to nearly all the TV stations about other matters. I hope that given all this, we put a closure to this, and begin to live our lives again.</p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?feed=rss2&amp;p=23</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>0</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>Sex videos diminish us all</title>
		<link>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?p=22</link>
		<comments>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?p=22#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 20 May 2009 12:12:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>admin</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[belo]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hayden]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hayden kho]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[katrina]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[katrina halili]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[sex videos]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[vicki belo]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?p=22</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[We&#8217;re at an all-time low.
Today&#8217;s voyeur scene is alive and well and overrun by sex videos. There is the Katherine Luna and ex-boyfriend sex video. There are the Hayden Kho and Brazilian, plus celebs, sex videos. And there is the threat of even more sex videos exploding, one of them reportedly involving a young star with [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We&#8217;re at an all-time low.</p>
<p>Today&#8217;s voyeur scene is alive and well and overrun by sex videos. There is the Katherine Luna and ex-boyfriend sex video. There are the Hayden Kho and Brazilian, plus celebs, sex videos. And there is the threat of even more sex videos exploding, one of them reportedly involving a young star with an impeccable image. But of these, it is the Hayden Kho-Katrina Halili sex video which is currently all the rage.</p>
<p>RAGE.</p>
<p>That, in fact, should be the dominant word in all this. <em>Rage</em> that has nothing to do with being hot, even if these videos are the hottest ticket in town; <em>rage</em> that has only to do with feelings of revulsion and repugnance.</p>
<p>For these are the exact emotions we must be feeling—if we&#8217;re to remain human, if we&#8217;re to deserve the consciousness that alone separates us from the animals we share this earth with.</p>
<p>Equally vital, we must feel just these for the right reason.</p>
<p>And the right reason has to be that, with every second these videos are viewed, <em>a human being</em> is violated, and that, with each violation, the <em>entire human race</em> is diminished just that little bit more.</p>
<p>The women on that screen did not know, and did not consent, to being the lead players in a sex video.</p>
<p>Or, if initially they had knowledge, they&#8217;d been made to understand that these were for their private use, and they never at any time consented to having the videos go public.</p>
<p>Those captured moments were part of the natural, transactional intimacy between the women and their lovers. That is obvious. And in that setting, certainly, they&#8217;d undress. Certainly, they&#8217;d kiss each other wherever and whenever. Certainly, they&#8217;d abandon reason to lust, be servile and slavish or dominant and in control, whichever makes them happy. And who&#8217;s to do otherwise? <em>That</em> is what lovemaking is!</p>
<p>Unfortunately, we&#8217;re a society with an unhealthy discomfiture and curiosity about sex. So caught up are we in our religiosities and small-mindedness and duplicities, we&#8217;re conditioned to see sex as a thing to hide. We&#8217;re prudes, in short. As such, many of us-the female species included—look on with both scorn and envy at women with fearless views about their bodies and their sexuality. (Say I&#8217;m wrong.)</p>
<p>Back-ending this ugliness is our double standard of morality. We&#8217;ve heard this line to death, but it was true then and it&#8217;s true now. We&#8217;re not distressed just by sex as a subject, we&#8217;re especially distressed by it when it involves women. We&#8217;re also idiotic enough to think that men lose nothing, even if they&#8217;re the studs in the sex video and never agreed to perform for strangers. We just assume the men score. We just know the women are ruined.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s not even because we put women up on a pedestal, or respect them inordinately, or feel this compulsion to protect them. No, every day that is getting harder to believe.</p>
<p>Because, if that were so, we wouldn&#8217;t be making a fiesta out of viewing these videos that violate women!</p>
<p>We wouldn&#8217;t be standing around our desks and calling everyone to come and watch—like it was just another television show, like it was entertainment, like no real lives were involved.</p>
<p>We wouldn&#8217;t be hosting small private parties and showcasing these videos via high-definition equipment, while we sipped our drinks and made polite dinner talk.</p>
<p>We wouldn&#8217;t be texting friends to provide the links to these sites.</p>
<p>And we wouldn&#8217;t be snickering and guffawing, while slobbering all over the place with lewd jokes.</p>
<p>Nope, the only reason we distress over women in these videos is because we think they&#8217;re cheap. We see them as beneath us. They give us a bad name. We fancy ourselves never getting caught up in something like this. From our safe little worlds, we think we&#8217;re above it all.</p>
<p>Wrong!</p>
<p>In the first place, why should making love be beneath us? What&#8217;s abhorrent about lovemaking? As to never getting caught up with love and lust—why, that&#8217;d be totally missing out on one really robust human experience! And if we actually place ourselves above all physical intimacy—not as vocation and choice, but as issue of distaste for the act—that must be when our hearts are shriveled, like sun-dried prunes.</p>
<p>And why can&#8217;t this scandal happen to <em>us</em>? Or to our sisters, nieces, cousins, daughters?</p>
<p>Katrina was a pretty, 21-year-old who was earning her keep in 2007, when she fell in love with Hayden, then a handsome, 27-year-old doctor of medicine. Except for the fact that the doctor was publicly known to be the boyfriend of Vicki Belo, a doctor much wealthier and far older than he, there was nothing especially scary about him. And except for the fact that Katrina was already FHM&#8217;s sexiest woman in the world the year before, and would be voted so again that year, there was nothing especially different about her.</p>
<p>She was just a young, liberated working girl, full of life, with the world before her—much like our sisters and nieces and cousins and daughters. And like many of these girls, at some point Katrina fell in love, and gave her all to her man.</p>
<p>She was also not an insensitive girl. In my interview with her early this year, for YES! Magazine, she acknowledged that Vicki Belo was an issue in her relationship with Hayden. This is how she handled it: She played the suffering wife. Her man and Vicki could go out in the open and enjoy their partnership; she would stay in the condo and wait for when he could find time for her. She never imposed on his schedule; she waited, even if oftentimes she cried while doing so. By denying herself the pleasures of having long conversations with him, of eating out in restaurants with him, of attending showbiz events with him as escort, she believed she was already paying for her sins to Vicki.</p>
<p>By her reckoning, she was behaving as decently as any woman in love could. A woman, by the way, who had been told by her man that she was his other partner &#8220;in a parallel life.&#8221;</p>
<p>Since then, she has admitted on national television: <em>“Ang tanga-tanga ko. Pero na-in love ako. Pasensiya na po…”<br />
</em></p>
<p>Indeed, how was she to know this doctor would have a fetish for videos? How was she to know there would be a sick environment around the good-looking fellow—of a world seemingly measured by luxury goods and travel, with friends he has wronged and who hated him, of a whole value system neither educated nor decent?</p>
<p>It is she who has been violated here. It is Katrina who has been abused—not once, or twice, but thrice! First, when her lover took videos of their most sexual moments without her knowledge and consent. Second, when some heartless bastards uploaded the videos on the Net. And third, when an unthinking, unfeeling public viewed the videos and enjoyed themselves.</p>
<p><strong>KATRINA&#8217;S VIDEOS.</strong> As early as May 9, with the rumblings of a Hayden sex video starting to mount, I told the PEP staff that no way would we upload. This didn&#8217;t even have to be about Katrina, whom I  know personally. This could&#8217;ve been about any girl, a complete stranger, and I would still say no.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t even think anyone should ask why. It is just so plain and so clear, there is no need for reason or discourse. It just takes instinct. Intuition. Reflex. It&#8217;s a gut thing. A sense of right and wrong kicking in. A universal moral language, if you will.</p>
<p>This is a video, after all, that has pained, tainted, exposed, stripped naked, humiliated, and practically killed the soul of a girl of 23. This girl, whose only crime is that she fell in love with the wrong man, now suffers the once-pure joys of her affections and trust being made entertainment fodder by anyone with access to a computer. She is a woman against whom stones have been cast.</p>
<p>Let me make this clear again because I will not align myself with the censors of this earth: I am not revolted by a sex video because of its scenes of intimacies in bed—or on the couch or in the powder room or wherever two consenting adults desire to unleash their love and lust at each other. The moments between lovers—be they gentle or wild, physical or verbal, cerebral or carnal—are to me an issue of joy. I maintain that making love has to be one of the most powerful intimacies of all time.</p>
<p>But these sex videos circulating of Katrina Halili and Hayden Kho are a different matter altogether. They no longer fall under moments between lovers. They&#8217;ve become moments of monstrous aggression by one partner against another.</p>
<p>Hayden has shamed and disrespected Katrina, a woman who had loved him with all the faith of her youth. And whether he ever loved her back or not, he had no right to put her in harm&#8217;s way. Even if he never intended for the videos to be found by another soul, he had no right to include an unsuspecting girl in his inglorious playtime.</p>
<p>Hayden Kho should not be allowed to live this down for the rest of his natural-born life.</p>
<p>On May 10, the first video arrived in PEP, along with three screen captures. They were sent by some anonymous bloke who probably thought he/she was doing us a favor. Well, wrong again. I refused to even look at the video or the pictures. There was never any upload.</p>
<p>As the days passed, we heard about more videos. These were now reaching private emails and more sites. Still, PEP would not budge. Instead, I called Omar Sortijas, Katrina&#8217;s handler. Beyond my instinctive response, I wanted to know the facts.</p>
<p>Did Katrina know the videos were being taken?</p>
<p>Omar says, <em>“Alam ni Katrina yong sumasayaw sila, at yong dalawa pa, na nagsasalita pa siya. Pero ang alam niya, pinapabura niya</em> right away <em>kay Hayden. Ang alam niya burado na.”</em></p>
<p>What about a fourth video that is said to be the most graphic?</p>
<p>Omar says, <em>“Iyan talaga hindi alam ni Katrina. Naka-webcam ata iyon.”</em></p>
<p>Omar also says that they&#8217;ve spoken to Hayden, who finally admitted to having made four videos. Hayden has also given them the names of the only other people with a copy of these videos—people he is said to strongly suspect caused the upload of the videos on the Net. Katrina&#8217;s father and some lawyers are already meeting to help out Katrina. Prominent personalities have also begun to speak up on her behalf.</p>
<p>But overall, emotions aren&#8217;t stable. For a long time, Katrina felt down because her mother, who has not spoken to her because of this scandal, finally got on the phone with her a few days back, only to end up giving her a big, angry sermon. She may deserve it, Omar admits, but it is not something she needs now. In fact, Katrina told Omar, it is something she cannot handle now.</p>
<p>Then just before she went onboard for the May 16 <em>StarTalk</em> interview, Katrina seemed  all right, was neat, and fairly composed, Omar says. But when the questions started coming, she just broke down and couldn&#8217;t stop. Everything was captured on TV.</p>
<p>But more recently, she was buoyed up again, this time by calls from fellow young stars, all of whom felt very badly for her, and the seeming helplessness of it all.</p>
<p>I said to Omar that I was thankful Katrina was a strong girl. Another girl might have been suicidal by now. But I was taken aback by Omar&#8217;s reply. He said, <em>“Natatakot nga ako. Kasi ang batang iyon, pabigla-bigla magdisisyon. At malakas ang loob niyang gawin ang gusto niyang gawin. Kaya hangga&#8217;t maaari, ayoko siyang naiiiwan mag-isa. Paggaling ko ng taping, takbo na ako run sa kanya kaagad.”</em></p>
<p><strong>THE PRESS.</strong> I&#8217;m buoyed up myself by colleagues. All the ones I spoke to uniformly feel disgust and sadness with the sex videos. At a press conference for Sharon Cuneta&#8217;s latest album of kiddie songs, <em>Children&#8217;s Rhymes and Lullabies, </em>I was at a table with various writers. Here is what they had to say:</p>
<p>Mario Bautista, who writes for the <em>Manila Bulletin</em>, among other print outfits: “Hayden and the people who posted it in the Net should be taken to court.”</p>
<p>Rowena Agilada, columnist for <em>Tempo</em>: <em>“Nakakaawa si Katrina kasi</em> affected <em>ang </em>career <em>niya. Wala na siyang trabaho. Di na siya kinakausap ng nanay at kapatid.”</em></p>
<p>Nora Calderon, contributor to PEP, referring to Hayden Kho: <em>“Wala ba siyang nanay o kapatid na babae?”</em></p>
<p>Remy Umerez, columnist for <em>People&#8217;s Journal</em>: <em>“Dios na ang bahala sa kanila.”</em></p>
<p>Another person at the table was Baby Gil, VIVA Entertainment Inc. vice president for corporate public relations. She said: “The people who did this are sick!”</p>
<p>I myself thought of all the sickos out there doing harm to Katrina, and I asked myself what the giant GMA-7 is doing for her at this time. She is now in the fight of her life. She&#8217;s fighting all these sickos on all fronts, and she needs every bit of help she can get from a company she has served well.</p>
<p>Finally, I asked Allan Madrilejos, the editor-in-chief of FHM, where Katrina is a favorite cover girl, how he felt. Allan, visibly affected by all this, did not want to say a few inadequate words that were no match for his thoughts. He sent this email instead:</p>
<p>&#8220;Katrina Halili&#8217;s thread in the fhm.com.ph (http://www.fhm.com.ph/board/index.php?topic=3139.0) is one of the most viewed threads in our forum.</p>
<p>&#8220;That it&#8217;s buzzing with tremendous outpouring of support for Katrina in light of the recent and rapid circulation of her controversial sexy videos with Dr. Hayden Kho says so much about how much FHM&#8217;s only two-time 100 Sexiest Women in The World Campaign winner is loved.</p>
<p>&#8220;This is not blind love at play here, but understanding, one that is rooted in respect for Katrina, her privacy, her right to defend herself.</p>
<p>&#8220;The unfortunate spread of these sexy videos is totally irresponsible, a low blow that&#8217;s very much undeserved. It has come at a time when the issue has been milked dry to its juiciest bit.</p>
<p>&#8220;Yes, we know Katrina has made a mistake. She has bravely and humbly faced the problem head on, coming out on national TV in December and later sitting down with YES! for an exclusive in its March issue.</p>
<p>&#8220;She has sincerely  apologized for all the hurt she had caused. Hasn&#8217;t she shed enough tears?</p>
<p>&#8220;We at FHM know Katrina to be a survivor and we sincerely wish she&#8217;d summon the courage to fight on. How and when she decides to launch her counter-attack is totally up to her.</p>
<p>&#8220;She rightfully deserves a moment to cry, to be outraged, to just be with herself, her family and friends, to evaluate her moves, to pick up the pieces, to move on. It will be a battle, true, but there is strength in knowing there are people who believe in her.</p>
<p>&#8220;We wish this could ease her burden somehow.&#8221;</p>
<p>If words can make things right&#8230; I wouldn&#8217;t mind pouring in the words and the emotions that would change things around. Not just for Katrina, but for all the other girls violated by these sex videos, and all the girls and boys who will yet be violated, if shame doesn&#8217;t visit us all soon.</p>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?feed=rss2&amp;p=22</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>187</slash:comments>
		</item>
		<item>
		<title>GRETCHEN UNDER FIRE</title>
		<link>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?p=3</link>
		<comments>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?p=3#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Nov 2006 08:45:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator></dc:creator>
		
		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.pep.ph/blogs/jo-ann/?p=3</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Since I spend most of my waking hours in showbiz, and since YES!, the magazine I am editor of, is a monthly, there is all this stuff I pick up that I donâ€™t get to write at all. Somebody said the stuff is plentiful enough to fill a daily blog.
A bright idea really, if we [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img id="image10" title="gretchen1.jpg" alt="gretchen1.jpg" src="http://www.pep.ph/blogs/jo-ann/wp-content/uploads/2006/11/gretchen1.jpg" align="right" />Since I spend most of my waking hours in showbiz, and since YES!, the magazine I am editor of, is a monthly, there is all this stuff I pick up that I donâ€™t get to write at all. Somebody said the stuff is plentiful enough to fill a daily blog.</p>
<p>A bright idea really, if we go by how people are amazingly interested in everything showbizâ€”even in such matter-of-fact things like Ruffa Gutierrez is all ready to set up home in Barcelona, where husband Ylmaz Bektas has already picked their new house, or such factoids like Richard Gomez, not Lucy Torres, is the real cook in the family.</p>
<p>Still, a daily blog may be tough. I have three dogs that expect me to drive them to the shaded paths of UP, where they walk and sniff, walk and sniff, then rest and drink and think. That takes up time. But a blog thatâ€™s irregular, updated as often as there isÂ time and something to say, looks workable. So â€œJo-Ann Chatsâ€ will now appear here in PEP, if with erratic frequency.</p>
<p>Where do we begin? Well, the hands-down choice has to be the woman whoÂ is possibly and arguably the loveliest face in local entertainment todayâ€”Gretchen Barretto.</p>
<p>Consistently, Gretchenâ€”also called Gretch, Greta, La Greta in an ascending order of aweâ€”is one of three most talked-about stars in the country. This, I gather from TV ratings, magazine print orders, and dinner-table talk among both Pag-Asa Bliss ex-neighbors, NGO workers, and Penn-graduate friends. (The other two, by my reading, are Kris Aquino and Ruffa Gutierrez.)<span id="more-3"></span></p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">GRETCHEN &#038; DAWN. </strong>These days, Gretchen is particularly all over the news because ofÂ a â€œtampuhanâ€ she is having with Dawn Zulueta, the other star that othersÂ say <em>is </em>arguably andÂ possibly the loveliest face in local entertainment today.</p>
<p><em>Thatâ€™s</em> probably why there&#8217;s all this media attention. You have Gretchen, 36, and Dawn, 37â€”both absolute lookers, both attached to men with big bucks and big family names, both sought-after leading ladiesÂ of the Nineties, and both makingÂ showbiz comebacks at this timeâ€”now said to be at odds with each other over, of all things, makeup, clothes, shoes, bags!</p>
<p>Last I checked, the media coverage has GretchenÂ on the losing end. Sheâ€™s supposed to be the &#8220;diva,&#8221; the â€œprima donna,â€ the &#8220;big star&#8221; who came with bodyguards and <em>yayas</em>Â lugging her â€œwhole houseâ€ toÂ a shoot.</p>
<p>I know that she did bring her &#8220;whole house&#8221;â€”or at leastÂ hauled from there roughly 30 pairs of completely unused signature shoes boughtÂ at a recent Singapore tripâ€”toÂ PREVIEW magazine&#8217;sÂ cover pictorial for its December 2006Â issue,Â whichÂ Gretchen happened to be doing with Dawn, Ruffa, and Angel Aquino. This was where it really all began.</p>
<p>The buzz now is thatÂ Gretchen was â€œshowing off,â€ that she was deliberatelyÂ making herÂ co-stars, who didn&#8217;t have the same multiple-costume choices,Â feel disenfranchised.Â The thinking being thatÂ anyoneÂ lugging, to just one shoot, that many Valentinos and Balenciagas inÂ those huge Louis VuittonsÂ must be showing off.</p>
<p>And when that someone also brings a microwave ovenÂ toÂ the shoot&#8230;well!Â  Â </p>
<p>As a rule, GretchenÂ indeed goes to shoots with her microwave in tow. SheÂ did not, to the PREVIEW pictorial, but she did, to the Pantene commercial shoot that followed, where once again she, Dawn, Ruffa, and AngelÂ formed the celebratedÂ crop of beauties. From there, the buzz just got louder.</p>
<p>Through all this, Dawn has made herself incommunicado. She has not picked up her phone or responded to texts, when and where these calls threatened to be about her and Gretchen.</p>
<p>My last communication with Dawn was last Sunday (Nov. 26), by text, but it was strictly about Jacobo, her one-year-old son, who will be introduced, Dawn says excitedly, to Santa Claus this Christmas! I deliberately did not ask anything about the tiff. I figure, if a person is keeping rigidly silent, she must have her reasons. Leave her be.</p>
<div align="left">
<p align="left"><strong style="color: #ff0000">GRETCHEN &#038; TONYBOY.</strong> For her part, Gretchen has reactedâ€”and how.Â IÂ figure it&#8217;sÂ to be expected. <em>She </em>is the person under fire here, obviously. And she does have a name and an image to protect.</p>
<p align="left">Because, say what you will, but Gretchen has definitely worked on being the loving and loyal, if gregarious and irreverent, partner of a low-key billionaire businessman. She still speaks her mind, as in the past, but she also clearly respects the non-negotiables laid down by Tonyboy Cojuangco, which includes, yes, <em>not showing off</em>!</p>
<p>She is also, the way I see it, truly in awe of Tonyâ€™s brainpower. Not surprisingly. After all, the man is a summa cum laude graduate of the Ateneo de Manila University, a post-graduate degree holder from Stanford University, and a smart enough businessman to have made a serious fortune outside the Cojuangco family inheritance.</p>
<p>For Tonyboy, Gretchen has consciously worked on a shift, if not in her name, then certainly in her image.</p>
<p>Gretchen herselfÂ may not agree with this. She always likes to say that she needs to be herself, and that local high society, to which her partner has belonged from birth, is not going to intimidate her.</p>
<p>And that could be rightâ€”but not getting intimidated doesn&#8217;t mean not adjusting to the ways of that society.Â Gretchen has. At society weddings the couple have to attend, for instance,Â she certainly can&#8217;t talk the way she does when with her gregarious gay friends in showbiz!</p>
<p>So a Gretchen BarrettoÂ reacting badly to the media blast is totally expected. What is aÂ sight to beholdÂ are the seismic shifts that those reactions undergo within dramatically short periods. The girl actually plays like a movie!</p>
<p>But letâ€™s not get ahead of the story, even if Iâ€™m trying to tell it as quickly as possible. This is a blog, right, but even blogs have to be accurate!</p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">THE EMOTIONAL UPSET.</strong>Â Things heated up forÂ Gretchen on Nov. 16, a Thursday, when ABS-CBNâ€™s chief entertainment man, Mario Dumaual, was heard asking who it was that acted like a diva in a shoot starring the four pretty women.</p>
<p>Later,Â Mario would tell someone from Gretchenâ€™s camp that when he discovered that the clues all pointed to Gretchen, he himself dismissed it as a non-story. Gretchenâ€™s camp quote Mario as saying, â€œThatâ€™s not news. Gretchenâ€™s always a diva, so whatâ€™s new?â€ Or something hilarious like that.</p>
<p>Sounded hilarious to me, anyway, and even to persons in Gretchenâ€™s campâ€”but not so to Gretchen.</p>
<p>In a flash, Gretchen went from shocked toÂ hurt to angry (Nov. 16, morning till evening), when sheÂ called her manager Boy Abunda, then in HK, on the phone, and had her handler Bettina Aspillaga, then with an old friend visiting from NY, rushing over to her DasmariÃ±as Village mansion.</p>
<p>Within hours, Gretchen had jumped to confrontational (Nov. 16, late morning till 9 p.m.), when she gathered Bettina, Ruffa Gutierrez, and her old friend Anna Abiera in her DasmariÃ±as dining room for a powwow.</p>
<p>It was then that Dawn, who was on the phone with Gretchen,Â decided she would go over and join them so they could all talk this out. Fine! said Gretchen.</p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">THE DAWN-GRETCHEN EXCHANGE. </strong>And so began several hours of an exchange that went roughly like this:<br />
Yeah, I said those things&#8230;<br />
But why, what did I do?<br />
You were making me feel bad.<br />
Why didnâ€™t you tell me?<br />
Everyone was talking about you!<br />
Everyone, everyone? Which one?<br />
Si ano, si ano at siâ€¦<br />
Ok, letâ€™s call them all right now!<br />
(A series of calls follows. One by one, the persons called denied they said those things. Those that did not deny said they didnâ€™t intend them to sound mean, that they were just jesting. It is not absolutely certain if they were telling it as it was, or were simply scared to get on Gretchenâ€™s wrong side.)<br />
I thought we were friends!<br />
Youâ€™re competing with everyone all the time!<br />
Why, because I wear Prada and Gucci?<br />
Why did you bring those clothes to the shoot?<br />
We were told to bring our own clothes!<br />
Why did you bring those things?<br />
Those are my clothes!<br />
You just want to make us feel bad.<br />
Why should I want to do that?<br />
Youâ€™re competing all the time!<br />
What? Competing? Iâ€™m just having fun!</p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">THE EMBRACE.</strong> The heated exchange went on and onâ€”but just as suddenly, it was over. Still in conference in the Dasma house, stillÂ surrounded byÂ the same set of people, Gretchen had exhausted herself, she had let it all out, and now she was open to reconciling withÂ her old friend (Nov. 16, evening).</p>
<p>She made the move to embrace Dawn. Dawn embraced her back.</p>
<p>All was well again between these two extraordinarily beautiful ladiesâ€”who, in their 20s,Â were very dear friends who did everything together, including visiting cosmetology doctors for an enhancement procedure or two.</p>
<p>The following day, however, Gretchen was back to feeling hurt (Nov. 17, daytime), and a few <em>hurtful </em>or <em>hurting</em>â€”Iâ€™m not sure which description is exactâ€”text messages flew between the two of them once more.</p>
<p>Nevertheless, everything was contained. They had all decided to keep quiet, and they did. They knew it was inappropriate for them to be acting like wildcats. They werenâ€™t starlets any more, they were established stars!Â Not only that, they were mothers, for heavens sake!</p>
<p>But I nowÂ believe that, although words bad and good were exchanged to clear the air, and the nice embrace did happen, the emotional fallout from the ugly incident was still there, lurking dangerously. Another trigger, and there was bound to be another outburst.</p>
<p>Emotions after all do take longer to fix than the mind, especially ifÂ a once-deep friendshipâ€”such as it was for Gretchen and Dawnâ€”had been in cold storage for more than a decade.</p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">â€œPRIMA DONNA.â€</strong> So it was not totally surprising that a seismic shift would occur again. This time, the trigger was an email published by Dolly Anne Carvajal in the <em>Philippine Daily Inquirer</em>. (Out Nov. 23, the column must&#8217;ve been written byÂ Dolly Anne, said to be the most widely read <em>Inquirer </em>columnist online, at least two days earlier. Columnists normally have a deadline two days in advance of issue date.)</p>
<p>Unsourced and unattributed, the email made the public guess who the â€œprima donnaâ€ was at the shoot of Gretchen, Dawn, Ruffa, and Angel.</p>
<p>Ruffa, who had notÂ left for Barcelona at the time, was the first to read it.Â As is her style, RuffaÂ called Gretchen right away. And very Ruffa, she worried, â€œGirl, that can only be you or me! Weâ€™re the only ones with bodyguards and signature clothes! Canâ€™t be Dawn, she doesnâ€™t naman bring bodyguards, and alangan namang thatâ€™s Angel. Baka theyâ€™ll think itâ€™s me, oh my gosh.â€</p>
<p>At that very hour, Gretchen was shooting for the January cover of YES! She was at the Holiday Inn, our pictorial venue, where she had arrived promptly at 8 a.m. and had come complete with her designer clothes and Louis Vuitton suitcases filled with branded shoes and trinkets. Just as YES!Â had requested. See, she didnâ€™t know exactly what we wantedÂ for theÂ shoot, so we said just bring them on. And oh yes, she also brought with her the now-famous microwave.</p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">UGLY WRITEUP, UGLY FACE.</strong> Gretchen knew all about the unflattering writeup by then, but she wanted no talk about it in her presence. When I began to read a Xerox-copy of the article out loud for the others, Gretchen hushed, â€œUh-uh, ayokong marinig. Nagsu-shoot ako ng fashion. Kailangan maganda ako. Di ako puwedeng pumangit.â€ I went on to read it anyway, but quietly. And as I did, I thought, Oh-oh, trouble.</p>
<p>To compound the problem, I got a phone call from Karen Pagsolingan, managing editor of PEPâ€”correct, this very Philippine Entertainment Portal you&#8217;ve logged in to, where Iâ€™m editor-in-chiefâ€”saying that we had a contributed article on the Gretchen-Dawn tiff. She read it to me on the phone.</p>
<p>This one wasÂ now far moreÂ detailed than the published email.Â This one actually tracked how Gretchen arrived with her bodyguards and <em>yayas</em>, how the luggage were unloaded, how herÂ special dishes andÂ expensive plastic containers were laid out, how a microwave was in attendance, and so on.</p>
<p>But once again, this one had anonymous sourcing. Later in the day, IÂ would mentionÂ the article to Gretchen and to Backroom&#8217;s Bettina Aspillaga. It sounded damaging; I wanted their side.</p>
<p>After the six-hour YES! pictorial (counting makeup, change of set, food breaks for the staff), a tired Gretchen sat down for an interview. Incidentally, by then she hadÂ been in her high-heeled designer shoesÂ before our photographer forÂ at least four hours straight!</p>
<p>I did the interview with YES! associate editor Anna Pingol. At some point, after talking fashion and makeup and bling-blings, we brought up this latest blast against her.<img id="image12" title="gretchen3.jpg" alt="gretchen3.jpg" src="http://www.pep.ph/blogs/jo-ann/wp-content/uploads/2006/11/gretchen3.jpg" align="right" /></p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">THE MICROWAVE. </strong>Gretchen was surprisingly coolâ€”at least, she began that way.</p>
<p>â€œWhere did that come from? It canâ€™t be from the people we worked with! I didn&#8217;t feel any tension or problem there at all. Everyone was nice and treating us well! We were all having so much fun!&#8221;</p>
<p>Anyone who knows Gretchen knows that the woman is highly articulate. She has the words to match her sentiments, she knows just how to express herself, sheâ€™s a great storyteller. But that is also to say: you donâ€™t want to be on the receiving end of her tirade.</p>
<p>True enough, there she was, trying to find out who the culprit wasâ€”and while at it,Â failing to control her temper. â€œWhat is it to anyone if I bring a microwave to a shoot?!! What is the big deal with a microwave? Thatâ€™s only P2000! Gusto nila bigyan ko pa siya?â€ she saidâ€”clearly raring, if for that split second,Â for a fight.Â </p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">ANOTHER BAD STORY.</strong> As the meaning of the latest newspaper blast dawned on her, Gretchen became increasingly biting with her comments. After all, she knew everyone in the country was going to say one more time: There goes that Gretchen woman!</p>
<p>There was already the Elevator Incident. (â€œNot true. Never happened,â€ Gretchen said a long time ago. My own research, which led me to one of the younger owners of the RCBC building where the elevator incident was supposed to have happened, came up with the same thing: â€œNot true. Thatâ€™s a myth.â€)</p>
<p>And there were already those scandalous sightings of Gretchen in malls with six or more bodyguards. (â€œI rarely go to malls. I hate shopping. I love buying things I like, but I hate shopping! Iâ€™d rather have coffee and conversation and eat good food. But yeah, I move with bodyguards. Pero kailangan ko pa bang sabihing may mga threats sa amin? Kailangan ko pa bang ipaliwanag na kundi naman kelangan ang bodyguard, di hindi ako magbo-bodyguard? E may magagawa ba ako kung si Tony ay kilala in business and politics, and there are those who wish him harm?â€)</p>
<p>At this point, let me put in a word. For the YES! shoot, we were actuallyÂ thankful that Gretchen had brought her &#8220;whole house!&#8221; (I know Gretchen would object. If that were her &#8220;whole house,&#8221; that would make her &#8220;poor,&#8221; and that, in her book, isÂ &#8221;not nice!&#8221;) Anyway, I admire organization. I like efficiency. I bow toÂ the smooth orderÂ of things. Iâ€™m a Virgo, what can I say? I even suspect that Gretchen, who is a Pisces, has a Virgo ascendant!</p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE.</strong> Gretchen isÂ clearly OCâ€”obsessive compulsive, if you willâ€”about order. At home, she is that way; outside, she is that way, too.Â At the YES! pictorial, sheÂ had everything organized just so, allowing usÂ to pick from her clothes without delay or mess.</p>
<p>All those branded shoes and luggage, designer casuals and Inno Sotto gownsâ€”they wereÂ grouped and tagged inÂ such a rational order, our shoot went ever so smoothly, with a lot of laughs in between. I not only had no complaints, I felt beatific.</p>
<p>We hadÂ thisÂ fantastic cover shootâ€”andÂ much of it was thanks to a star who was such a pro!</p>
<p>Even the crazy white microwave was no issue with me. I was thankful she had it there to heat whatever it wasÂ she needed! And the plastic containers? They were a pricier brand, but they were still, to me, just Tupperware. They were simply there to separate the sliced fruits from the soup from the chop suey.</p>
<p>See, if she hadnâ€™t brought in all that paraphernalia, she might have bothered me about getting them for her! As it was, we didnâ€™t feed her a thing. She always liked asking what we were eating, true.Â But give it to herâ€”she was disciplined.</p>
<p>She never once touched the scones or the cakes or the tuna turnovers. And she never even got near the sausages and fish and steaks because the main course was served in the main dining hall, while sheâ€”bless her!â€”never left the pictorial room. Except forÂ trips to the ladies room, she neverÂ stopped for a break until the entire shoot was done.</p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">TWO YAYAS. </strong>What she did wasÂ assign one <em>yaya</em> to take charge of her things, pulling out belts and dresses as needed. Meantime, she had the other <em>yaya</em> hand over to herâ€”at different intervals throughout the six-plus hours we workedâ€”the kamote, melon, papaya, atis, brown rice, broccoli soup, squash soup, chopsuey, tissue, and stainless fork. This was the range of her diet.</p>
<p>And always, she ate mainly in between takes. This way, Darren Tieste, our Australian photographer who never seemed to get hungry himself, didnâ€™t have to stop. Half the time, in fact, Gretchen was standing while eating. Partly, she was being careful with the fabulous Inno Sotto gowns we hadÂ borrowed for the shoot. And partly, she didnâ€™t want to upset the photo setup.</p>
<p>Gretchen BarrettoÂ was, to put it categorically one more time, simply a pro.</p>
<p><img id="image13" title="gretchen4.jpg" alt="gretchen4.jpg" src="http://www.pep.ph/blogs/jo-ann/wp-content/uploads/2006/11/gretchen4.jpg" align="right" /><strong style="color: #ff0000">GRETCHENâ€™S TEARS. </strong>In any case, in Gretchenâ€™s interview with us, her general mood was explanatory, bordering on theÂ argumentative. It was her tone and language thatÂ kept shiftingÂ from sharp to musing to forgiving to angry again. In the next two hours, itÂ would beÂ that way.</p>
<p>Then toward the end, tears began to fall down her face. She wiped them away, but they fell again.</p>
<p>The tears came at the point where she began to recall howÂ life was for her when she had little money for clothes and was working like mad to save. She recalled how her friend Nadia Montenegro and Anna Abiera treated her to steak dinners and lent her stuff to use for guest appearances because she really didnâ€™t have much.</p>
<p>Gretchen would say now: â€œI appreciate all that. I remember all that. Our friendship was based on our liking and helping each other na walang kapalit. Hanggang ngayon, now when I can buy anything I want, I remember those times.</p>
<p>&#8220;Kaya never ako magmamatapobre, never ako magpapanggap na mayaman ako dati. Di importante yon sa akin. Ang buhay pabago-bago. Iâ€™m just happy I am where I am today, but I know where I came from.â€</p>
<p>She added: â€œKaya nga I donâ€™t understand why someone canâ€™t be happy for me now that I have these things. I am always happy for my friends. When Ruffa has this or that, I get excited for her: â€˜Hey, girl, thatâ€™s cool, whereâ€™d you get that?!â€™</p>
<p>&#8220;Why should anyone mind if I have five Louis Vuittons and I bring Gucci, Balenciaga, Valentino, and Prada to a shoot? I was told toÂ bring extra clothes, so I brought. I canâ€™t help it if all my clothes are Balenciaga and Valentino!â€</p>
<p>Then, breaking into a lighter mood, she said: &#8220;Of course, I&#8217;m exagd. You know, they tell me to bring 10, I bring 100! But I don&#8217;t mean anything by that, that&#8217;s just me!&#8221;</p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">THE BITCH IN BALENCIAGA. </strong>Strange as it may sound to those who think that bringing a microwave is over-the-top behavior, I believe Gretchen when she says: â€œI donâ€™t have inggit. I enjoy reading someone like Celine Lopez, who says, â€˜Iâ€™d rather be the bitch in Balenciaga instead of the badly-dressed girl bitching about the bitch in Balenciaga,â€™ or something like that.</p>
<p>&#8220;Yeah, why not? If I can wear a Valentino, why not? And besides, I never comment on somebodyâ€™s outfit unless Iâ€™m asked. I donâ€™t make lait. You like that, go ahead, as long as youâ€™re happy, Iâ€™m happy!â€</p>
<p>That was Thursday (Nov. 23), when she was ready to bring the fight to anyone.</p>
<p>The next morning, Friday (Nov. 24), Gretchen and I were on the phone. We talked from 8-10a.m, something weâ€™d been doing every now and then. Her voice was calm, melodic, nice. She was sounding in control, content, and at peace with herself.</p>
<p>At one point, she actually said: â€œYou can write this. I mean itâ€¦ Iâ€™m so loving my life. I cannot complain. If I complain pa, baka sabihin ng Diyos, â€˜Oy, sumusobra ka na. I gave you all these blessings na, umiiyak ka pa riyan.â€™ So really, I am so loving my life.â€™â€</p>
<p>She added, her voice filling with laughter: â€œAt kawawa ba yong maraming LV [Louis Vuitton]? Iâ€™d rather be the bitch in Valentino! Iâ€™ve decided Dawn cannot bring me down.â€</p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">â€œDAWN IS MY FRIEND.â€ </strong>All the same,Â Gretchen wanted to end with: â€œBut I donâ€™t want a quarrel with her. Dawn is my friend, kaya di ko alam why she said those things about me. But I donâ€™t want to fight anybody. Ayoko lang na may tatapak sa akin because then Iâ€™ll fight back.</p>
<p>â€œBut really, at the end of the day, I cannot complain. At the end of a shoot, I go home. I have Tony and Dominique, and they love me. They are my life! Like I went home late one time, and I feel guilty about it. Iâ€™m thinking, Iâ€™m back in showbiz, I have all these pictorials and shoots. Baka Iâ€™m not being a good mother or a good wife?</p>
<p>â€œSo that night I went home, Tony was watching something on TV and Dominique was there doing her thing. They were quiet. Tahimik naman yong pamilya ko. When I arrived, ang dami kong kuwento! You know whatâ€¦hala, sige na ako. Tuloy-tuloy na. Sabi ni Tony, â€˜Dumating ka lang, umingay na ang bahay.â€™ Ayun, masaya kami, masaya na ang bahay, maingay na uli.â€</p>
<p>Gretchen and I ended the conversation with neither of us certain about how much to write, or not to write, about the &#8220;prima donna&#8221; episode. She didn&#8217;t want to fight with anyone, she said. But she wanted to clear her name, she also said.Â </p>
<p>I thought I put down the phone on a happy Gretchen.</p>
<p><img id="image14" title="gretchen5.jpg" alt="gretchen5.jpg" src="http://www.pep.ph/blogs/jo-ann/wp-content/uploads/2006/11/gretchen5.jpg" align="right" /><strong style="color: #ff0000">CRYING ON RADIO. </strong>That very same day, Friday (Nov. 24), in the afternoon, Gretchen was on a radio interview with Cristy Fermin. And she was crying!</p>
<p>I didnâ€™t catch it myself, but from the littleÂ that I gathered, the trigger was Cristyâ€”who is close to Gretchen&#8217;s estranged sisters Claudine and Marjorieâ€”reminding Gretchen about the past. Reminding her that in one battle of long ago, she had only Marjorie on her side.</p>
<p>As the questions got closer and closer to home and family, Gretchen lost it. She was crying andÂ babbling thatÂ she misses her sisters. I believe that Gretchen has a major emotional vacuum to fill where her sisters Marjorie and Claudine once were.</p>
<p>They were a pretty tight sister act, and when that unity broke, Gretchen has had to weigh her changing emotions all the timeâ€¦ But this is another story, for another day.</p>
<p><strong style="color: #ff0000">CALM AND COOL AGAIN. </strong>The next day, Saturday (Nov. 25), around 11 p.m., I was again on the phone with Gretchen, butÂ for a very brief while. Ruffa had handed the phone to me, after speaking with Gretchen briefly herself.</p>
<p>I told Gretchen to come and make it to our small dinner party at Lucy Torres-Gomezâ€™s house. I said we all wanted to see her gown. She laughed. I also said we would all wait for her and Tony, whose birthday was coming around by midnight.</p>
<p>Gretchen giggled, and in hushed tones said, â€œAno ka? Paano kami makakatakas, nasa presidential table kami?â€ At the time, she and Tony were at a wedding reception at the Makati Shangri-la Hotel.</p>
<p>Well, they didnâ€™t make it to the dinner, but I felt good for her. She sounded calm and cool again.</p>
<p>Like I said, that was Saturday (Nov. 25). It is now Tuesday (Nov. 28). I donâ€™t know how Gretchen is feeling today, at this hour, wherever she is. I will not presume that the seismic shifts in emotion have ceased. I don&#8217;t really know.</p>
<p>For I have no doubt that Gretchen is a woman with a complex past and a complex present.</p>
<p>Meantime, I donâ€™t mind saying I like Gretchen best when sheâ€™s happy and telling funny stories about herself. But whatever todayâ€™s seismic shift may be for her, I truly wish her well, at every turn.</p></div>
]]></content:encoded>
			<wfw:commentRss>http://blogs.pep.ph/jo-ann/?feed=rss2&amp;p=3</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>1053</slash:comments>
		</item>
	</channel>
</rss>
